Message from the office
On behalf of all the staff at VP we wish to express our sincere thanks for the wonderful cards and gifts that we received from our girls and their families for World Teachers’ Day. Our teachers (myself included) certainly were made to feel special and appreciated. I also took much delight in the pleasure it gave our girls to present the gifts which they thoughtfully and carefully made. We are truly blessed with very special little girls at VP. It made Monday and Tuesday ‘feel good’ days at school.
This brought to mind the importance of feeling valued and appreciated as well as having a mindset of being appreciative and grateful for what life gives us. The article below provides some wonderful insight into gratitude and how we can nurture it in our children. Although the original article aims at teens it certainly is applicable to all ages. https://parentandteen.com/appreciation/
“We want to raise our children to be competent and confident. We also hope they develop deep and meaningful relationships with their family and friends. In addition to these important goals, parents can help their children build character, the type that allows them to grow to their full potential and achieve the kind of resilience that will support them throughout life. You can think of character as doing the right thing — even when no one is watching. A key avenue for doing this successfully is nurturing children to show appreciation for others.
Every family shows appreciation in different ways. Some parents may acknowledge their child’s positive behaviour out loud. Another family may prefer a physical approach – hugging, kissing, cuddling, or patting their child on the back. Regardless of how we show appreciation, when we do, our children learn to appreciate their family and community more. In addition, we know children’s relationships with parents are reflected in their friendships. The more mothers show support to their children, the more support these children show their friends.
This makes a lot of sense when you think about it. Children who are recognized and appreciated — for studying hard or preparing dinner, for example — will likely repeat more of these behaviours. And if they get appreciation, they’re more likely to be appreciative. This is because a heightened sense of connection to others contributes to having additional caring relationships.
All parents have the necessary tools to teach this essential lesson to their children. There’s nothing you need to buy. All you have to do is be mindful. Focus on how you show your child appreciation. Pay attention to ways you demonstrate how much you care about them.
No words we say to children will ever be as influential as our own behaviour.
5 Easy Ways to Teach Appreciation
Need a little guidance? Here are five no-cost opportunities for teaching children to appreciate others.
1) Recognize acts of kindness
Catch children when they’re being kind, generous, and thoughtful. Tell them how pleased you are with their behaviour. It’s not uncommon for parents to praise children for getting an A on a test or scoring a goal. But all too often children get recognition solely when they produce. Try to increase the amount of kudos you offer for the efforts they put into being a good person.
2) Focus on positive ways people treat each other
Children benefit when families discuss selfless behaviours, the kind that usually go unnoticed. For example, make it a habit to acknowledge the co-worker who visits her mother every day or the grandson who takes meals to his grandmother. Make a conscious decision to change what you talk about most – especially if topics tend toward the negative, gossipy or unproductive.
3) Choose words and actions carefully
Children pay close attention to how adults treat each other. Young people always watch grown ups for social cues regarding how they should behave. When we disagree with our partners, we’re in the best position to demonstrate how to voice opinions respectfully. Our ability to listen, to offer kindness even in the heat of the moment, shows children how to appreciate others and their points of view.
4) Treat strangers well
Children learn to value qualities like compassion when they see parents acting compassionately. No words we say to children will ever be as influential as our own behaviour. Our acts of caring and understanding are silent and powerful teachers. Young children, teens and tweens observe us and remember.
5) Value love and kindness over material goods
Never worry about spoiling children with love and kindness. Love doesn’t spoil children, it only makes them sweeter. But love and kindness don’t require buying children every last video game or piece of clothing or material item they request. Remind them to be grateful for what they do have, instead of worrying about what they don’t. It’s OK to have your child save enough money for special items they long to own. The upside of delaying our children from getting whatever they want is that they’ll be that much more appreciative when they do get them.
When we notice and appreciate our children, they are more likely to notice and appreciate others. This doesn’t mean showering them with empty praise. Make sure you acknowledge legitimate acts, both big and small, that deserve your admiration and gratitude. This will have a ripple effect. Your children will benefit now and their actions may positively inspire others in the future.”
We will have our SGB AGM and Budget meeting on Monday, 12 October at 17:15. Please note that we will follow strict Covid-19 regulations and if necessary have more than one meeting if additional space is needed. Movement of parents attending the meeting will be restricted to the Hall foyer and hall with no other access to the campus. Please use the entrance in Beaufort Street. The budget is available to view at the office.
We are thrilled to have received 55 entries for the Eisteddfod! Thank you to all the parents who completed the entry forms. Please send the entry fee to Mr Wynne. The artworks must be sent to Ms Knott-Craig and videos of performances to Mr Wynne via email
Congratulations Mia Muller for achieving 250 merits so far this year. Keep up the hard work!
Happy birthday to the teacher and girls who celebrated their birthday this week: Ms Grobbelaar; Likhona Klei, Awongwa Zono, Sophie Büttner, Sivuyisiwe Jacob, Khloé Thompson, Lisakhanya Cetu, Lamela Funani, Siyolise Gobozi and Liyabona Magopeni.
Mrs Michelle Rafferty